Jimi asked a bunch of us this question, and one of my partners already weighed in.
I wish I had an answer that would pass muster. I don’t. I can, like Cobb did, pull from a list of my boys–good men all–and use that as some sort of barometer. The graduate chapter I’m active with had a picnic yesterday and there were all types of brothers there. No fights. No beefs. Good eats. Good drink. Omega Oil does the body good. In Baltimore a number of good black men can be found at the Que house, the Kappa house, the Sigma House (do they have one in bmore?), and in the Alpha national hq. You can also find a lot of them at the police department, at Druid Hill playing basketball during the weekends. I run into these brothers everywhere I go except Hopkins.
But I suspect this type of story is rote by now. You’d also find black men walking aimlessly, or hanging out on corners with a purpose. And with the number of formerly incarcerated persons back out on the streets increasing (and the rate of hiring decreasing) I suspect we’ll see a lot more doing this.
Perhaps the more interesting question to me is, what will “good black man” mean given the shifts we’re going through? $3.50 is a GREAT price for gas now, right?
Wait till those shifts kick in in earnest brah – and whole buncha presently “good” Black men get dislodged from their make-work cubicles out onto these here skreets and have to figure out how to hustle….,
To me, the premise of the question is suspect. The implication is that good Black men are the exception.
malik there are enough single sisters looking that i think it is a fair question. and even if it is just a “class” thing, class is real.
but craig gets to the heart of it. given where we’re going a “good black man” is about to mean something TOTALLY different than what it means now.
Hey Doc,
Unfortunately, the “bad” men have been nominated as the most coveted group in the world by women. Somewhere down the road, being the “good” man has inexplicably been translated into being boring, predictable, and average; apparently not qualities that appeal to women folk. Being of the single variety myself, whenever I hear a woman tell me that I’m “…a good guy, but…” I brace myself. I’m about to receive the kiss of death.
Hey, this is all good to have good men in the fraternities. The majority of woman are not involved in fraternities and sororities. Many of us ma not have been apart of these groups. Also, many f us have professional careers and are passed by men that willing to invest as much as we are willing to invest also. At once you are educated you wannt someone to have your back and share romance with. You don’t want a immature man that still is trying to figure things out. Once you become a woman you want to give some much and the lack of men out there aren’t serious. No matter how educated and mature you are with many men you are side-pussy or a homegirl. Many females like myself have fallin short. And many are tired of being just that girl, girlfriend, FWB you never take seriously, and mother of your children (could have said baby moma, but this shows daily sacrifical respect). Men of all ethnic colors. Take your places, mature, and get the label of a gentlemen. Please… Steve Harvey get with Farnes Bentley and y’all right that book. Our men need some help.
And for those who wonder about me. I am really sweet, down to earth, educated, and I have heart for people. Guys you need to wake up. Please… Wake-up. Man?! Y’all i didn’t mean to sound like “School Daze.” LOL
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